Planet Earth Stuff & My Former Sister In Law

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I guess I started having a thought about the deceased today.  I imagined what they might feel or say if we could speak with them.  I imagine them saying, “The good thing about being dead is that you are no longer concerned with all the difficulties and challenges of your physical life experience.  They hold no significance in your next existence.  When you are deceased, you find yourself involved with a very different kind of existence that is a spiritual existence.  It is a continuation of your own journey, but with a much broader and expanded understanding from a place of greater spiritual awareness and experience.  All the concerns and realities of physical life on the planet earth are not part of your own new existence and personal experience.  These things are only of concern to you because they are significant to your loved ones in the physical life and where your loved ones are presently at in their own experience.”

I found out yesterday that my former sister-in-law passed away in the year 2021.  I have no idea of what cause my former sister-in-law died.  My husband thought I should not mention it or tell anyone in my family.  Really?  I shouldn’t ever bother to tell my mother that my former sister-in-law and her former daughter-in-law passed away?  Is a former family member really supposed to be written out of people’s own life experiences and chapters because a marriage ceased to exist?  At this moment, this feels rather ridiculous to me.  The past and our connections with people from our past do matter.  I do not think that I could ever not value any of my sisters-in-law..  They are a part of who I am, and a forever part of my family connections.  This is my emotional experience at the moment.  And these are the experiences that I value and treasure the most.  These emotional experiences are when I feel that I connect with the version of myself that is my best version and where I seek to discover myself as a spiritual person and being.

I have no idea who else in my family knows about Kim’s passing.  I would be very surprised if my mother did because I think she would have mentioned it to me if she had learned of this.  As far as what my brother knows, I have no idea.  If he does know, he didn’t tell the rest of us.  I remember my brother telling me that one of the hardest parts of divorce is no longer being a part of the former spouse’s family.  You are my family, Kim.  Even if this ceased to be the truth in our lives, this is my greater spiritual truth in connection with my most authentic self.  And my most authentic self holds my best and most loving version of myself even in times when I am not connected with this version.  Wow, that was like an amazing lightbulb insight and a lot to unpack.  (My authentic or higher spiritual self has an endless supply of awareness and truth to be felt and understood.).  The stories of my greater spiritual self are always like this.  I guess I really am a truth seeker.  

(Kim died even sooner than my amazing friend and college roommate Michelle who passed away at age 55 in the summer of 2022.  I have known of Michelle‘s passing since that time.)

And I find myself at this time wanting to say, “Hi Kim.  I hope you are doing well and I just had this thought that the past is always real and that you are my sister-in-law and also my Wheelock sister.  And the Wicked Witch of the West is a Wheelock sister also. 😱 😂 You know that Wheelock story Kim. 😁 We are proud that Margaret Hamilton, the Wicked Witch of the West of the Wizard of Oz, is a fellow alumni.  I meant nothing negative toward her, of course.  I imagine that she was perhaps a very nice and lovely person. 

 I have a final thought for my earlier sister in law Kim.  I hope it’s as amazing as I imagine where you are.  

And I think I would rather focus on deeper spiritual connections with people who are significant to me rather than worrying about keeping up with them on any Social Media.  

Much love ❤️ to all my deeper spiritual connections, los muertos and the living.